Emotional Security
Jun 27, 2021"Words of comfort, skillfully administered, are the oldest therapy known to man." Louis Nizer
Holding space for feelings.
Holding space and allowing someone to feel what they need to feel takes courage, compassion and acceptance. Comfort helps us all to feel safe and secure. Our feelings are massively valuable indicators to us about what we need, our values and desires. Therefore it’s important for our wellbeing that we can experience them, understand them, trust them and share them. Children need to be comforted from all kinds of anguish. They get hungry, nervous, frightened and confused. We can comfort by leaning in to hold space to how a child is feeling, and in return, we get to nurture their emotional wellbeing and self-awareness.
For Parents
Use the Power of Pause before jumping in to rescue or fix a feeling. Instead, try holding space to noticing and naming the feelings to offer comfort and compassion. “I see your frustration with the situation. You look really annoyed by it all?” “I hear you’re upset. I’m here for you if you need a hug or time to talk about it.” “I see you’re hurt. How can I help you?” Hold space for your child to feel seen and heard to support them in feeling safe, sharing their feelings with you and noticing how connected you both feel during and after the held space.
For Educators
Spend time noticing and naming feelings within the day to hold space for the person feeling them. “I see your enthusiasm for putting your hand up and yelling out. It’s wonderful to see your passion in action.” “I see you look restless swinging on your chair. Is it restlessness you feel or something else?” “I hear your exhaustion in this task; how can I help bring some positive energy back to the project for you?” It’s a precious opportunity to connect and hold space for emotional wellbeing within your classroom where everyone grows.
Kerry Spina
Kids in Harmony
Wellbeing Educator
Behaviour Support Coach
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· 19 April · One of the most precious things I have ever created, alongside my child of course. The I LOVE MY BODY book is something I wanted to nurture from the very beginning of my Kids in Harmony journey. To help children love themselves. WHY? So, they know their self-worth. They know they are valuable, they are beautiful as they are. When we nurture self-love, when we love ourselves, we know hands down we are lovable, we belong and who we are matters in the world. Giving us the courage to live our best lives.
There are thousands of books out there in the world for adults to practice self-love BUT not as many that aim at starting self-love from birth. That's what my book does, that's what I wanted. Foundations! Start early. It's a board book and it begins with body awareness, teaching and guiding a child to know their body parts while discovering and appreciating what those body parts give us through the four seasons of our planet and the cycle of our day! Link in bio to find out more.
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Words of comfort, skillfully administered, are the oldest therapy known to man. Louis Nizer
Holding space for feelings.
Holding space and allowing someone to feel what they need to feel takes courage, compassion and acceptance. Comfort helps us all to feel safe and secure. Our feelings are massively valuable indicators to us about what we need, our values and desires. Therefore it’s important for our wellbeing that we can experience them, understand them, trust them and share them. Children need to be comforted from all kinds of anguish. They get hungry, nervous, frightened and confused. We can comfort by leaning in to hold space to how a child is feeling, and in return, we get to nurture their emotional wellbeing and self-awareness.
For Parents
Use the Power of Pause before jumping in to rescue or fix a feeling. Instead, try holding space to noticing and naming the feelings to offer comfort and compassion. “I see your frustration with the situation. You look really annoyed by it all?” “I hear you’re upset. I’m here for you if you need a hug or time to talk about it.” “I see you’re hurt. How can I help you?” Hold space for your child to feel seen and heard to support them in feeling safe, sharing their feelings with you and noticing how connected you both feel during and after the held space.
For Educators
Spend time noticing and naming feelings within the day to hold space for the person feeling them. “I see your enthusiasm for putting your hand up and yelling out. It’s wonderful to see your passion in action.” “I see you look restless swinging on your chair. Is it restlessness you feel or something else?” “I hear your exhaustion in this task; how can I help bring some positive energy back to the project for you?” It’s a precious opportunity to connect and hold space for emotional wellbeing within your classroom where everyone grows.
Kerry Spina
Kids in Harmony
Wellbeing Educator
Behaviour Support Coach
